Your relationship girlie never hides from a topic. I attack all topics head-on, and as you all know, I share my failures in relationships to save you from unnecessary stupidity. With that being said, let’s talk about one of the most awkward things that can happen when you’re dating. Let’s talk about ghosting.

No one wants to talk about ghosting; however, loves, we have to. Either we ghosted someone, or we have been ghosted ourselves. We will discuss both sides of the ghosting world today and don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be awful.

You’re the Ghost

Welp, lovely, you decided to ghost someone. You did the thing you said you would never do to someone. But here we are. Let’s talk about it. I had an amazing conversation with my friends and social media following about the topic. Some people “do too much”, “once we went out, they had no manners”, “catfished”, “he smelled bad”, “I wasn’t into her and the list goes on and on. To all the “ghosters”, I get it. That person was not the right fit and they were not worth the time to you.

To be honest, I have never ghosted someone. I always let things play out, and I just move accordingly. Side note, be careful with that method because I could have avoided so much drama if I just left when the red flags were waving. After hearing from the ghost, I asked why not just say “I’m not that into you. Some said, that’s awkward, some said “I did not feel safe” The response that made me chuckle was “I was good”. Clearly, I must be rude because I have no problem saying I am not into someone. However, ghosting can happen because someone threatened your safety, and this relationship girlie stands by, protecting yourself.

You have been “Ghosted”

Have you ever said this statement “Wow I had the best time last night!” Then you didn’t hear from him again. My friend, you have been ghosted. Being ghosted feels awful, but let’s talk about why. My opinion is that you are hurt by the ghosting because you feel as if your time was wasted. Let’s be real, people hate their time being wasted.

I’ll be honest; I have had my own experience of being ghosted. The funny part was I ran into him at a public event. He tried to get my number all over again. It was so weird to me because he said, “I was not ready before, but now I am.” My confusion stemmed from the fact that we went on one date, and I thought we would be better off as friends regardless. Best to say that I was not phased, and I was not circling back to that nonsense.

We also have to be honest with ourselves; maybe that person just did not like us. Yes, we are not liked by everyone and maybe we came off too strong. Not every problem that takes place is the other person’s fault. From my situation, I know exactly what type of man I want in my life, and that’s intimidating to some men. Don’t take everything to heart. However, look in the mirror and do a self-check. If you were the drama, take this as a learning experience. Don’t let the ghost win. You’re the ghostbuster.

This was written by our contributing writer, Vonora Lewis.